Ask Dr. NerdLove: My Boyfriend Is Poly… And I’m Maybe Perhaps Perhaps Not

Ask Dr. NerdLove: My Boyfriend Is Poly… And I’m Maybe Perhaps Perhaps Not

The cool difficult facts are, then this isn’t going to work if you can’t handle a poly relationship – and not everyone can. I’ve myself seen folks whom attempted to be cool with being poly before it was over because it was the only way they could be in a relationship with the person they loved… and it caused everybody no end of grief. Rather than to seem insensitive, however you have to be the only to manage your anxieties. Your boyfriend is right: that is section of whom he could be, it is one thing you knew moving in, and telling him to alter it isn’t fair to him because you can’t handle. In the same way constantly subjecting your self to misery is not reasonable for your requirements.

Then the first thing you need to do is get yourself into therapy to deal with your anxieties if you want to try to make a go of this. Just tossing your self in to the mix and hoping that you’ll go numb eventually is really an idea that is bad. Read More